These People Do Not Love Cats (But I Do)
From the Evil Blog's comments:
Most girls I've met in the past, that was the first thing they asked. There will be less and less of them to marry up to. You will find truck loads of barren feminists, that chose to ask stupid questions and nagg away boyfreinds. Talk about planning for the future!So "barren" feminist, hows life with the 20 cats.
Patriarch Verlch 04.09.06 - 1:40 am #
Hi all, Seems like you pretty much agree with Jill and Joolya about it being bullshit that men are intimidated by smart women . . . I think what they were saying is that it's only jerks who would "drop the H-bomb", jerky females who would be impressed by it, and insecure jerks who would run away from a female who was "smart". I don't think Joolya was seriously saying she wouldn't date a non-Ivy grad, but that shw wouldn't date a jerk who was insecure.I'm glad we all agree - Voxians and Feministas alike - that the whole "men intimidated by smart women" is bollocks.Too bad some of the people here are still make a thing about cats ...
Lucie 04.09.06 - 3:15 pm #
Too bad its being typically true offends you.
Michael Maier 04.09.06 - 5:32 pm #
hooray! vox's boys agree with me! let's just all be nice to each other.ps what's the matter with cats? can i have a boyfriend and a cat?
Joolya Homepage 04.10.06 - 10:45 am #
Damn cats!
DrFix 04.10.06 - 11:12 am #
Smart women who are always being obnoxious and competitive are quite unattractive, but it has nothing to do with their IQ. Replace "women" with "men" and you have my point about the Harvard Law guy in a nutshell. Don't no one disagree about this.But would anyone here make a face if they asked what I did and I said I was doing my PhD? Would they snark about cats? Just wondering.
Joolya Homepage 04.10.06 - 11:44 am #
Joolya, probably.Depends on what your PhD is in, and what you intend to do with it. Are you going to be a career woman? If so, you are/were out of my dating pool (hypothetically, past tense). I was looking for a wife, not a fellow bread winner. Is it just something you're interested in, and will drop the career for awhile when you get pregnant? And how then would we pay for your student loans?Most of my *men* friends are rather discriminating in their dating choices. Even the "geeks* here at my biotech company have plenty of choices in the female dating pool. Why waste time on a non-starter relationship?
JCclimber 04.11.06 - 12:57 am #
Joolya,I take back the probably. That would be rude. After all, you are probably very interesting as a person. Just not interesting as a dating partner....good for friendship dating.
JCclimber 04.11.06 - 12:58 am #
JC: We all want different things. My partner is not interested in a stay-at-home type of wife, so he wouldn't be interested in dating that type of woman. That's why I don't like blanket statements about "men want this" or "women want that" ... there is a lot of variability across and within genders. Fortunately, I don't have student loans, and my earning capacity is equal to or greater than my partner's. He is deeply committed to a non-gendered family life, so we will cross the pregnancy bridge when we come to it and I'm sure it will work out alright no matter what we decide. My female science colleagues with kids generally have partners who are not bound by gender norms and have been able to adapt just fine. Furthermore, most of my friends and family have not been in the position to be single-income households, and got alone just fine, too.
posted by Joolya at
11:37 AM
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Oh dear. Well, good luck with this, Joolya.
And, I just want to throw in that obviously not all Harvard Law students are representative of the straw HLS student typified here. I know one who is a genuinely nice caring humble nerdy guy, who is (unsurprisingly) going the academic law road, not the corporate law route.
So true. There are lots of nice lawyers. And other people. And jerks in every walk of life.
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